ONLINE DATING TEXTING STRUCTURE – The most optimal way to build compliance and investment over text
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I get it.
You’re stuck! You feel like you’re lost when it comes to texting, not knowing what to do. Just shooting away, hoping your texts land you a date.
But they fall flat.
As mentioned in the last post, this is often due to either asking for too much compliance too soon, not requesting enough compliance at all, or not creating enough attraction because you’re texting like a spastic.
This structure will help you avoid all three of these common dilemmas and teach you to progressively request compliance, so you don’t get pushed back or left on seen. So let’s dive in.
The Overview
Before I break down each section, I want to explain why each technique is to be used at different points in that interaction.
The order of these elements is essentially placed in ascending order based on how much compliance each technique requires.
Baiting, for example, takes little compliance as you’re leaving an unanswered question in their mind and provoking them to ask you for closure. Displaying value is you more sharing, not you asking questions. It also creates attraction which then affords you enough compliance to get her to qualify. Now once she is chasing (and only then), can you begin to sexualise (if you want to. Soft closing is simply a step up in terms of compliance and then, of course, the actual close itself, which is the element that requires the most compliance.
Bait
It may surprise you that I didn’t just put “opener” at the top. Well, here’s the thing it’s much more helpful to think of the first 2-3 exchanges as being bait. The entire focus at the start of an online dating conversation is to make sure she actually replies and to set a good frame for the rest of the interaction.
“You seem like my kinda girl” for example, baits her as she’s left wondering, “What kind of girl does he think I am?” which she’ll often ask.
“Hey trouble,” for example, has a baiting element as well as the girl is left wondering why you think she’s trouble. It also sets a good frame for her to be consistent, too ie. Being trouble hints at being sexual, adventurous, etc.
Now beyond the opener, let’s say you open with “Hey trouble” and then she’s like “Hey, how are you?”. Instead of being boring and just saying “Yeah not bad just chilling. How are you?” you could say “Just chilling, writing an article. Need a distraction. Lol” she’s now likely to ask what you’re writing an article about hence forcing her to invest instead of you going in
asking a question trying to get compliance when it’s barely there.
Display Value
Typically displaying value is about displaying attractive parts of your lifestyle or who you are. However, beyond that, displaying value could be just having good wit and banter. Following the last example, that bait would allow me to display value (i’m always thinking two of three steps ahead when I text).
She could ask “whats the article for?” and I could respond, “For my company, it’s a bit controversial” now she’s going to be left with two questions in her mind: what kind of company and why is it controversial?. She will also most likely be more attracted as now she’s viewing you as someone who runs a company.
Whatever the next question, maybe you can either close the loop or keep it open. From here, you need to make a judgment of her level of compliance. Ask yourself have her responses been positive? How much has she been writing? How fast has she been replying? How enthusiastic does she sound? etc. If you feel like she’s at a point where she’s ready to start chasing, move on to the next.
Qualification
In this stage, you want to get her to qualify; this is how you really get her chasing you. It takes a fair bit of compliance, and it builds a lot of investment. A basic example of getting her to qualify would be “How adventurous are you on a scale of 1-10?” but there are smoother ways to transition into it, for example, “You may have two of my favourite qualities then” which again baits her into asking.
Sexualise
Now I first want to say this step is completely optional; you don’t have to sexualise to get dates or even get a girl straight to your house. However, it will allow you to have more dates straight to your house if you can sexualise and do it well (for more on this, look up “sexting 101” in guide 11 for more). Now you want to baby step sexualisation, meaning you start with something slightly sexual and then you move your way up. For example, the line “You. Me. A couple of drinks. Laughs, Teases, neck kisses. Vibe and build chemistry” is amazing as it’s milder. After this line, you’ll gauge how responsive she is to that level of sexualisation and then move it up to something like “booty massage” or mention something subtly about handcuffs etc.
Soft Close
One of the biggest mistakes guys make is going for the close too quick. Soft closing allows you to test the waters and avoid getting a hard no or a “I’m busy atm, i’ll let you know”. A perfect example of soft closing is any time you mention “Our romantic date” if she’s ready, she’ll ask, “And when’s this?” If she’s not, she’ll say something like “Oh romantic date ay, I didn’t get the memo,” and then you’ll know you have more work to do.
Close
This is pretty self-explanatory, but make sure you use the right closing sequence. “Do you like wine?”> “We should split a bottle together sometime”> “Shoot me your number and we’ll make plans “. With all closing, you want to break each piece of information she has to comply with into chunks. So when setting the date go “When are you free?”> “Let’s do Tuesday”> Say 7:30?” etc.
There you go.
Stop sucking and implement this, make some babies, and i’ll see you on the other side. Also, there will be a much more detailed structure and explanation in the product. So keep an eye out.